In many relationships that don’t end in marriage (well actually even then), there usually is a time when you have to say “hasta la vista baby.” the two of you have shared memories together that when you look back upon, you will either laugh or cry. but whatever that memory might be, once a relationship ends, it’s time to say “thanks” or “no thanks” for everything and move on.
But somewhere along the line, there’s always the “let’s remain friends” compromise to many breakups. it’s the much gentler way of saying, “hey, you’re not that bad. it’s not you. it’s me. but look, i still want to be friends with you.” *smile* the question that my friends and i discuss a lot is:
can you be good friends with your ex?
ok. let’s face it. whenever there’s a breakup, it’s usually never mutual. usually one person is the one that causes or initiates the breakup and is labeled “heartbreaker”, while the other person is left hurting and dwelling on the breakup for weeks on end. ok. i admit. even the heartbreaker could hurt too, but usually the one who initiated the breakup moves on faster than the one who didn’t.
after having meditated and burned incense on this question, my friends and i have come to the conclusion that NO, it’s very rare for many people to become truly good friends with their ex’s.
See these examples.. : (more…)
